I'm a long-time beleiver in not hitting your kids (though I'm the first to admit that I have hit my kids in times of anger and weakness, after which I always feel extremely guilty for not living my own convictions).
I found an article discussing scientific evidence that shows why we shouldn't hit our kids. Whether or not you beleive in using corporal punishment, check it out. It may just make you think twice the next time you raise your hand to your child (I know it's strengthened my resolve to not hit my kids, no matter what they do).
What do you think?
I found an article discussing scientific evidence that shows why we shouldn't hit our kids. Whether or not you beleive in using corporal punishment, check it out. It may just make you think twice the next time you raise your hand to your child (I know it's strengthened my resolve to not hit my kids, no matter what they do).
What do you think?
5 comments:
Loved the article! I too am anti-spanking but also mess up every now and again. We especially have trouble with Eleanor. I haven't found what works for her yet. . .Thanks for the encouragement :)
I was pro-spanking for a while, mostly because nothing else seemed to work. I mostly stopped using spanking because my boys try to use punishments on each other and I didn't enjoy seeing them try to give each other spankings.
Now that my boys are a little older and understand English better I can get away with more threats than actual punishment. So I've been moving toward other methods. My favorite thing to do is give them a choice (if the behavior in question isn't something that needs to be stopped immediately): I'll say something like, "Would you like to take your dishes to the sink or would you like to go to your room?" They rarely choose going to their room.
I agree with the part at the end of the article abot corporal punishment not being nearly as effective at changing behavior. Of course, I'm not a parent and don't have much experience with this sort of thing, but it makes logical sense. I would much rather do something naughty and get away with a few slaps to the rump or pretty much anything short of having my skull bashed in than, say, not being able to use the TV for a couple of days. The physical pain is only temporary and doesn't matter nearly as much when weiging the consequences. It also wouldn't make me feel as guilty.
I try try try to not spank. Sometimes it happens. Sometimes it's the only way to get Rachel's attention. Each kid is different - Ethan will snap back into line with just a stink-eye look. He's also easily bribed. Rachel runs to the beat of her own drummer. I'm still trying to figure her out.
Yea! I am glad you are here. If you need your kids to come over and play so you can have some time to get settled, I would love to have them over! We should get together as soon as you have time.
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